Dressed for Discipleship: Embracing Modesty in a World of Immodesty

Ray Reynolds, Ph.D.
Jun 5
4 min read

In a world increasingly focused on outward appearances, fleeting trends, and the constant pressure to "keep up," it can be challenging for Christians to navigate the waters of modesty. As followers of Christ, our ultimate aim is to glorify God in all we do, and that includes how we dress. The Bible, our infallible guide, offers timeless principles regarding modesty that, when embraced, can lead to freedom, respect, and a deeper walk with God.

What is Modesty, Anyway?

Before we dive into the "how," let's understand the "what." Modesty, from a Christian perspective, isn't about hiding our bodies in shapeless sacks or adhering to outdated fashion norms. Instead, it's about humility, respect, and a recognition of the sacredness of our bodies as temples of the Holy Spirit (I Corinthians 6:19-20). It's about drawing attention to our character and our faith, rather than solely to our physical form. Immodesty, then, is the opposite: clothing or presentation that calls undue attention to the body, often with the intent (conscious or unconscious) to provoke or entice.

Biblical Foundations for Modesty

While the Bible doesn't offer a specific dress code for every occasion, it does provide clear principles. I’d like for us to consider three passages. Read them and then consider the application with me.

I Timothy 2:9-10 says, "In like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works." Paul directly addresses women's adornment, emphasizing "modest apparel, with propriety and moderation." The focus shifts from outward extravagance to inner godliness expressed through "good works." This doesn't mean we can't enjoy beautiful things, but that our identity and worth are not found in them.

I Peter 3:3-4 says, "Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." Peter echoes Paul's sentiment, encouraging a focus on the "hidden person of the heart." True beauty, he asserts, comes from an "incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit." This passage reminds us that while our outward appearance can be pleasing, it's our inner character that truly reflects Christ.

Philippians 2:3-4 says, "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others." While not directly about clothing, this passage speaks to the heart of modesty. Modesty is an act of love and respect for others. When we dress immodestly, we can inadvertently cause others to stumble or struggle with temptation. This is not about shaming, but about taking responsibility for our influence.

Why Does Modesty Matter in Today's World?

In a culture that often promotes exhibitionism, embracing modesty might seem counter-cultural, but it's more relevant than ever. We need to live to a higher standard. We need to set a better example.

Modesty honors God. Our bodies are fearfully and wonderfully made by Him. When we present ourselves with dignity and respect, we honor our Creator. Our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit.

Modesty eflects our identity in Christ. As believers, we are called to be set apart. Our clothing can be a quiet testimony to our values and our commitment to Christ. We also appreciate that our bodies belong to our spouse (or future spouse).

Modesty fosters respect from others. Modesty encourages others to see beyond the superficial and appreciate the whole person, rather than reducing individuals to mere objects of desire. God didn’t create you for sex appeal or compliments from people. He created you to seek His approval.

Modesty protects ourselves and others. Immodest dress can invite unwanted attention and create stumbling blocks for others, particularly those who struggle with lust. By dressing modestly, we contribute to a culture of purity and respect.

Modesty promotes self-worth. True self-worth comes from knowing we are loved and valued by God, not from how much attention our bodies garner. Modesty frees us from the pressure to constantly seek external validation. You are loved by God. It doesn’t matter what anyone else feels, thinks or does. You are special to Him.

Living Out Modesty in Practical Ways

So, what does this look like in daily life? Ask yourself, "Does this glorify God?" Before you leave the house, consider if your outfit reflects your desire to honor Him. If you had a date with Jesus, the son of God, what would you wear? Now apply that to the “sons of God.” Your brothers in Christ deserve the same standards.

Consider the occasion. What's appropriate for the beach may not be appropriate for church or a professional setting. Some ladies often wear lingerie-like outfits, super body snugging outfits or bikinis in public. Some post pictures on social media to flaunt their curves or highlight certain features in an effort to court compliments. Why? Beauty fades.

Be mindful of fit and coverage. Clothes that are too tight, too revealing, or expose areas that should be covered can be immodest. Why would someone choose an outfit that shows 50-70% of their skin. Be mindful that wearing less clothes gives people the wrong impression.

Focus on inner beauty. Invest in developing a gentle and quiet spirit, cultivating kindness, humility, and love. These are the adornments that truly shine. I’ve counseled and coached far too many couples who found out (all too late) that they chose to outward beauty and it cost them dearly.

Pray for discernment. Ask God to guide you in your choices and to help you understand what pleases Him. Ask for wisdom on how to dress. Weed out immodest clothing and wear something God desires.

Embracing modesty is not about legalism or being fashion-averse; it's about a heart posture that seeks to honor God and respect others. It's an act of discipleship in a world that desperately needs to see the difference Christ makes. Let us, as Christians, be known not by our conformity to worldly trends, but by our devotion to holiness, expressed in every area of our lives, including how we dress. Let our clothing be a testament to the beautiful, liberating truth of the Gospel.

You are loved.

Ray Reynolds, PhD

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